Don’t Give Up!

LOVE AND RELATIONSHIPS (PART 9): DON’T GIVE UP!

Don’t believe the Hollywood hype, there isn’t just one person right for you, there’s many, and regardless of what type you most closely fit in with, you can’t give up that search for your someone special simply because you haven’t found them yet.

Don’t treat your love life like something supremely special and separate from the other experiences in your life. You’ve probably accomplished a lot, even stuff you may not think is really important or big, but to a lesser person than you, it’s big stuff. But don’t sell yourself short, and don’t sell your experiences short.

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The Relationship Virgin

LOVE AND RELATIONSHIPS (PART 8): THE RELATIONSHIP VIRGIN

Please read Love and Relationships (Part 6): Finding the Right Person to help clarify some of the terms. Remember from Part 6 that the Relationship Virgin is: “a person [who] is so cautious of all the bad relationships they’ve gathered from sources other than themselves, that they have accumulated a list of exactly what they want in a mate and what they don’t want in a mate. They usually create an unobtainable perfect mate in their minds, and are scared away from ever beginning a meaningful relationship with anyone or they think no one is ever good enough to begin a relationship with in the first place…I don’t mean these people are physically virgins, but that they are too cautious with their love lives.”

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The Clueless Lover

LOVE AND RELATIONSHIPS (PART 7): THE CLUELESS LOVER

Please read Love and Relationships (Part 6): Finding the Right Person to help clarify some of the terms. Remember from Part 6 that the Clueless Lover is: “the individual who thinks they are looking for the right person, but truly has no idea who or what they want in a relationship, and simply keep failing at each attempt. We’ll call this individual the Clueless Lover, and I don’t mean these people don’t know what they’re doing in bed, I mean they simply have no clue what it is they want in a relationship.”

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Finding the Right Person

LOVE AND RELATIONSHIPS (PART 6): FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON

This entry, and the ones following, are going to cover what I think many of my single friends misunderstand about romantic relationships. I write this for all the people who say they don’t understand why they can’t find love in their lives. And I write for those who, after having been misled by failed relationships or non-relationships, proclaim they don’t need love or aren’t looking for a relationship in their lives. This isn’t for those who have experienced successful relationships. I believe these individuals should already know what I have to say below (or some version of it), and could probably teach me a thing or two. But if you’re someone about to give up on finding love and developing meaningful relationships, I hope I can persuade you otherwise.

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The Couple’s Accountability System

LOVE AND RELATIONSHIPS (PART 5): THE COUPLE’S ACCOUNTABILITY SYSTEM

How can relationships help us become more independent? Because our relationships with other people and how we deal with them says a lot more about ourselves than just observing how we deal and live with ourselves. And learning more about ourselves and our relationship with others is a key way in understanding how to be independent and even gaging how independent we are.

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Independence vs. Relationships

LOVE AND RELATIONSHIPS (PART 4): INDEPENDENCE VS. RELATIONSHIPS

How can you be independent while being in a relationship? Don’t independent people by definition not need to depend on anyone else? Isn’t being in a relationship having to depend on someone else, therefore completely opposite? There is a lot of confusion among people, especially young people like myself, with how to negotiate our independent lives with our relationship lives. Perhaps you remember the Seinfeld episode outlining the eternal struggle between “Relationship George” and “Independent George” (here’s an excerpt explaining it), where George Costanza struggles to keep the two spheres of his life apart. While the show was abstract in exactly how this struggle might manifest itself, the episode works beautifully to illustrate how important people take their independence, and what efforts they put into maintaining it.

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Tips for understanding health insurance pitfalls and lingo.

Here are some tips for young people and beginners on how to pwn the health insurance industry… or at least come out alive. Please understand I’m not a doctor and am in no way an accredited expert in the medical field. It took me about 7 days of personal research and struggle (which you can read about here) to gather and clarify everything here, most of it sifting online at different company’s sites, but also speaking over the phone with the insurance company reps. I’m providing this information here because I hope I can save you that time and hassle.

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My search and battle with health insurance

Of all the things that college failed to prepare me properly for in life, I think the biggest failing was not briefing me or at least warning me about how to get good health insurance. Unless you majored in health insurance, I think you’ll probably agree with me.

My parents always covered me under their work health insurance plans. It was great, they paid a little bit extra every month, and we all felt safer knowing that we were all covered under some group plan that offered awesome rates and low deductibles and co-pays. I heard of those words at the time, but I had no idea what they really were, and really, they didn’t affect me. My parents put up the money whenever I needed to see a doctor anyway.

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Your health and your success

There are a few basic things that we all need to master before we can go full force in learning how to become and becoming efficiently awesome. The most basic of these basics, is your physical well-being.

CARING FOR YOUR HEALTH

If there’s one thing you don’t fuck around with, it’s your health. Face it, there’s no reasoning or arguing with it, if you don’t take care of your physical well-being, you’re basically screwing yourself from the back end of your life. Our physical bodies are a base factor that all humans must deal with, and everyone in human history has had to deal with it. Unless you’ve found some way to exist without being slave to your physical needs, you better take good care of your body, it’s the only one you’ve been given.

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Oops, I stepped on your balls. Fandom vs. Familiarity Masturbation

Have you ever had the experience where someone goes “Hey, what did you think of [movie]?” and you, being honest, go “Oh yeah, that movie sucked.” Then the person’s smile slowly fades into a sober “Oh yeah, well, I thought it was ok. What didn’t you like about it?” Ouch.

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